As soon as you're certain of your plans, talk to your kids about your decision to live apart.Although there's no easy way to break the news, if possible have both parents there for this conversation.The discussion should fit the child's age, maturity, and temperament.But it should always include this message: What happened is between mom and dad and is not the child's fault.But telling them what they need to know at that moment is always the right thing to do.Many kids — and parents — grieve the loss of the kind of family they had hoped for, and kids especially miss the presence of both parents and the family life they had.
Here are some ways to help kids cope with the upset of a divorce: Consistency and routine can go a long way toward providing comfort and familiarity that can help your family during this major life change.
Tell your kids that sometimes adults change the way they love each other or can't agree on things and so they have to live apart.
But remind them that kids and parents are tied together for life, by birth or adoption.
Thousands of kids experience the stress of divorce each year.
How they react depends on their age, personality, and the circumstances of the separation and divorce process.