But, this requires for women to have the safety to be honest about their sexual interests.
For instance, could women ever say, "Look, I probably WOULD like to see your penis pic, but I'd like to be able to ASK for it..."?
She was surprised that overwhelmingly, men loved it, found her boldness both sexy and fun, and wanted to meet her.
So, again, we have evidence that men are sending such pictures because they think others will like them, as much as they do.
Any woman who has ever ventured into the world of online dating, or almost any form of modern electronic communication, will tell you that one of their main complaints is that men routinely send them unsolicited pictures of their genitals.
Women understandably complain about this for two main reasons: "Men are GROSS" is the most common explanation that women have for this. Do they really think I'm going to magically want to have sex with them now, after seeing their penis?
People who are offended and grossed out at such images would like them banned.
In fact, many men are happy to get such pictures, and usually respond in kind. because it offers some confirmation that many men want to receive such pics, and are really hoping their recipient will enjoy it and be turned on.
One issue is that men just aren't good at hearing, or responding to "No." I'm not excusing that.
But this same dynamic, that men think women are sexually as excited as they are, is getting in the way of men hearing the "No, we DON'T want to see that!
The shaming and suppression of female sexuality is part of the issue here, as men don't feel they understand what women actually want sexually, and women don't feel they can express it safely.
Unfortunately, I don't think such dialogue is happening, or even possible right now.